A Call for Self Assessment
June is often a month of bold declarations. As society publicly elevates “Pride Month,” many Christians rightly wrestle with how to respond. And while it is appropriate to hold to biblical truth about sexuality, it is also a powerful time for those who identify as heterosexual to ask: “Am I honoring God with my sexuality?”
Jesus’ words in Matthew 7:35 offer a needed reminder:
“Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your eye? … You hypocrite, first take the log out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” (ESV)
This passage is often misunderstood. Jesus isn’t saying, “Don’t judge.” He’s saying, “Judge rightly—by beginning with yourself.” It’s not wrong to discern or speak the truth about sin. It’s bad to do so without humble self-examination.
So, Christian, if you’re not part of the LGBTQ+ community, June is not a time to retreat into silence nor to rise in self-righteousness. It’s a time to look in the mirror. Are you living with sexual integrity before God?
Sexual Sin Isn’t Just “Out There”
It’s easy to point fingers outward. But sexual sin is not exclusive to any community. Scripture makes clear that heterosexuals are far from innocent. Consider a few areas:
* Lust and Pornography: Jesus said, “Everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28) Sexual sin is not only in the bedroom—it’s in the imagination, the screen, the hidden moments behind closed doors.
* Adultery: God’s design for marriage is fidelity.“You shall not commit adultery.” (Exodus 20:14)It is not just a command for others, but also for us. The marriage bed must be honored and kept pure (Hebrews 13:4).
* Divorce and Remarriage: Jesus was clear that many divorces are not biblically permissible. “Whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
* Sex Before Marriage: God designed sex for the covenant of marriage. “Flee from sexual immorality… the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18) Living together or sleeping together before marriage is not “trying things out”—it’s sin.
What If You’re in It Right Now?
What if this hits uncomfortably close to home? That’s not an accident, but God’s grace. God uses conviction to draw us to Himself.
So what do you do?
* Confess it: “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us…” (1 John 1:9)
* Repent: True repentance means turning away. Not just saying “I’m sorry,” but choosing a new direction.
* Get accountability: “Confess your sins to one another… pray for one another, that you may be healed.” (James 5:16) Find a trusted, mature Christian friend, mentor, or pastor. Don’t battle alone.
* Get help: If you are deeply entangled in sexual sin, consider Christian counseling. God provides wisdom and healing through His people (Proverbs 15:22).
What If It’s in Your Past?
Maybe these things used to define you. You lived with your now-spouse before marriage. You battled pornography. You once ignored God’s commands. But now, by His grace, you’ve turned. What now?
* If you haven’t yet, confess it to God. Don’t just bury the past. Own it before Him and receive His mercy.
* Testify to transformation. You don’t have to publicize your past, but don’t be afraid to help others avoid your sin and pain. Share with the next generation how God’s design is not only right—it’s better.
* Be a living witness. Your story can be a beacon of grace to someone else struggling.
We must say this clearly: you cannot live in unrepentant heterosexual sexual sin and call out LGBTQ+ sin at the same time. That’s hypocrisy, and Jesus has no patience for it.
It’s a time to examine our hearts and bring every area of our sexuality under the lordship of Jesus Christ. This June, before we speak to the world, let’s start by letting God speak to us. Let’s be a people marked not by pride, but by purity and the grace that makes it possible.
“Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts!” (Psalm 139:23)