Let’s be honest, when it comes to sex, our culture is in chaos. Everyone wants freedom without responsibility, pleasure without purpose, intimacy without commitment. But God has something far better. His design for sexuality is not just right, but it’s good. When we trust the Designer, we reap the blessings of His design.

Trusting the Designer

“In those days there was no king in Israel. Everyone did what was right in his own eyes.” (Judges 21:25). Sound familiar? That verse could be a headline for today’s world. When we remove God from our thinking, we lose our way, especially when it comes to sex.

But God did give us a design. “So God created man in his own image… male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27) In the garden, He created our bodies and our sexuality with purpose: unity, pleasure, reproduction, intimacy, and lifelong companionship (Genesis 2:18, Hebrews 13:4). Sex was never meant to be casual. It was intended to be covenantal.

The Blessings of God’s Design

When we follow God’s design, we experience blessings the world can’t give.

• Security – Faithful, lifelong commitment brings safety and stability.
• Unity – Sexual intimacy becomes a sacred bond between husband and wife.
• Fruitfulness – Children are born into loving, stable homes.
• Health – Studies consistently show less disease, less anxiety, and fewer addictions among those who follow God’s pattern.
• Joy – True intimacy grows in trust, not in fear of abandonment.

God’s boundaries are not prison walls, but protective fences. They keep the blessings in and the destruction out.

Protecting the Next Generation

Godly men must be protectors of their own purity and that of their children’s.

For our sons:

Proverbs 5 warns of the path of sexual sin. It’s tempting but leads to ruin. Teach your sons that sex is not dirty; it’s sacred. Talk about physical boundaries. Explain the purpose of dating. Train them to treat women as daughters of God, not objects of lust. Help them understand that sex is about giving, not taking.

For our daughters:

Song of Solomon 8:8-9 describes a family guarding the sexual future of a young girl. Fathers should affirm their daughters’ values, protect their innocence, and paint a vision of a godly, joyful, and secure marriage. Show them what it means to be cherished so they won’t settle for being used.

Reflection: Are you trusting the Creator’s design or following culture’s confusion? Are you enjoying the blessings of sexual faithfulness or feeling the sting of compromise? Are you teaching your children how sacred, beautiful, and purposeful sex is?

For further reading see our past articles.

“Protecting Our Daughters Sexually”

“Dad’s Weapons to Protect His Daughters”

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